Struggling With My Weight

Struggling With My Weight

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I hate trying to lose weight. I hate exercising and frankly I love food, drinking and not counting my calories. I have been everything from a size 16 to a size 6 in the last five years and I still have not figured out where I’m comfortable and what I can maintain long term. The yo-yo effect is killing me and what really stinks – I gave all my “big girl” clothes away and I’m trying to squeeze into pants that are too tight, making me more miserable.

I know what I like to see when I look in the mirror. I know what I want to see when I look in the mirror. Darn it I’m just not sure it is feasible long term.  I’ve gone back to Weight Watchers and last time I lost 50 pounds and I lost it fast but this time I’m losing POINT 4 pounds and then gaining it right back (yo-yo).  I just cannot seem to lose enough to stay motivated and so what do I do…

I eat more.

I pout.

I feel sorry for myself.

I put on elastic pants.

I cry.

I say tomorrow I’ll do better.

What do you do? What advice do you have?

Hi, I’m Sommer (@greenmom) and I’ve been calling this my blogging home for 9 years. I’m a juggler of life, a protective mama bear and I enjoy travel, wine, sunshine and good books. I’m passionate about inspiring others to live a little healthier and greener each day. I’m many things but above all I’m a believer in karma and the good in people. I’m a children’s book author, public speaker and consultant. My full-time gig is working as a Marketing Manager for and helping to encourage everyone to eat healthier. Check out my about me page for more details.


  • Girl, I so know how you feel. I’ve been on weight watchers since 2002. I have kept MOST of it off but I yo-yo in and out of my jeans constantly. I love good food, and drinks but the minute I stop keeping track, I put those stinkin’ 8 pounds back on. The only thing that has kept me from putting on too much (and I hate to say this, I really do) is going to the gym/exercising every day of the week. If I don’t, those 8 pounds that keep me in or out of my jeans creep on practically overnight… and then some. I have reserved myself to the fact that I will always struggle and watch what I eat. BUT, I have also accepted the fact that I will never be a size 6 (or 8 or 10 for that matter) and if I did manage to get to that, I’d probably be miserable. I’d have to never cheat, never drink and live like a perpetual strict dieter. I’ll just be a size 12 and enjoy my weekends instead 🙂

  • Mkokopelli

    Stop eating sugar or anything with fructose- juice, honey, agave, brown rice syrup all have it. I started a 100 day challenge on Sunday and have lost 5.5 pounds since… no joke. 3 meals a day, no exercising. I’ve limited myself to 15 grams of fructose, so I can eat veggies, fruits, bread, and yogurt. It’s really hard, but once looking at the scale and seeing how much I’ve lost in 5 days, it’s worth it. And no nasty diet food and its free to do- actually it saves you money. I’m doing a thing on it on my blog- mkokopelli.blogspot if you want to follow and see the research on sugar. I had no idea I’d get these results so quickly. I was 175 Sunday morning and today 169.5. I’m really curious to see how much I’ll lose by the 100th day. 🙂 Good luck!

  • Safe2live

    You crack me up with the “yo-yo” description, and it reminded me of this great program to check into.
    Turn up the volume!

  • Selena Cate

    I highly recommend reading UltraMetabolism by Dr. Mark Hyman. It’s natural, it’s healthy and for me (the key) it’s gluten free. It talks about the stuff that I believe in which is very helpful. I haven’t lost a lot of weight yet because I can’t seem to wean myself off of organic half & half but with small changes I’m feeling healthier.

  • I think most women can relate to your struggle. The past few years the weight just keeps creeping up no matter what. I know exercise is a big piece of the answer, but it does not come naturally to me at all! (Although I did just “win” 3 sessions with a personal trainer at a silent auction last night.) It seems that even the thinnest people I know still wish they could lose 5 pounds. I really wish I had the answer and knew how to just be happy with where I am. I’m curious if women in other cultures feel the same way.

  • Esther

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    Imagine a delicious fruit smoothie to start and end your day! Please don’t take this wrong. I’m a concerned and conscientious mother like you all. Just couldn’t resist leading you to some wonderful information I have.

  • Micahbeckman

    One day at a time! You can do it…. You did it before! with all the things you have mastered books,blogs,businesses this is nothing!

  • Anonymous

    Thanks Micah! I actually have to say, this is harder than all of those combined! =( It is probably because I work so hard I don’t do what I need to for me to have a healthy body.

  • Anonymous

    Hi Kathy! I would be so happy and comfortable in a size 12 right now and 10 is my dream but 6 was too thin but boy were the clothes fun! Thanks for your support and kind words – you have given me some great things to think about. Happy Mother’s Day! I hope to see you soon!

  • Anonymous

    Thank you very much for the recommendation Selena! I will have to certainly check this out!

  • Anonymous

    Now sugar? No Zevia or other natural substitutes? Wow! Good work!

  • Anonymous

    I’m a Shaklee Distributor I know ALL about the Cinch plan but I don’t like shakes. =(

  • Anonymous

    Hello Isabelle! I think now my metabolism has changed and exercise might be the key for me as well! Congrats on winning the free sessions with a personal trainer! Sweet!

    I just want to be happy with where I am and have to find that place.

  • Such an on-going struggle for so many of us Sommer. I just realized I gained weight during the winter (big surprise) and I too am squeezing into pants that don’t fit and getting really down on myself. Here’s what I’m doing that I think will build to bigger success. Make small goals for yourself….the thought of saying you’ll get the the gym or do an hour workout can seem daunting in a busy schedule so I’ve started to put a few 15 minute breaks in my day to do outside and walk really hard and really fast. Doing that a few times a day feels great! 🙂 Also, I noticed ALL of my fitness clothes have holes or are just plain worn so I bought a few items so I could at least feel *cute* while exercising. I’m hoping that will give me more motivation. *sigh* – Here’s to hoping we can both be successful. 🙂
    P.S. Sorry that was so long winded.

  • The only sugar I get is from fruits and veggies. Freezing grapes really helps with night time cravings. Or blend some fruit and yogurt and make ice pops. I am going to try Xylitol this week, but other than that, there aren’t any great substitutes I’ve found.

  • Srkind

    You should try Shaklee’s Cinch weight loss plan! It is all natural and it WORKS!! Cinch lets you keep muscle you have, burn fat you don’t need, and lose inches you don’t want. They have shakes, energy teas, snack and meal bars and much more!
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  • Karla Wallach

    I’ve been overweight for 10 years and tried so many things. Different things work for different people and I was lucky enough to find one that worked for me. I lost 24 pounds in one month without exercise and it’s been a life changer. I’m a little embarrased to post my before and after photos here but if anyone actually cares to hear what I’ve been doing then I’d be happy to help in any way. Just shoot me an email at and I’ll show you my before and after photos, and tell you about how things are going for me with the stuff I’ve tried. I wish someone would have helped me out when I was struggling to find a solution so if I can help you then it would make my day