I read an article online the other night, as I do most nights. You know, after scrolling through Facebook because a fellow friend liked an article because it was so amazing and then I go down the rabbit hole. (Tell me you have done this!) It was probably 2 am and I was suffering from another bout of insomnia and my anxiety was over the top because my enormous to-do list. If you suffer from anxiety, you understand. It can be debilitating.
I digress. The article was well worth the read and I wish I could find it and share it with all of you but let me just give you a quick recap.
- Stop doing everything for your children and your husband.
- If you do everything for them, they expect it and do not appreciate it.
- If they can do something themselves, they should do it. NOT MOM.
Okay, I know, I know. This is not rocket science but reading this article with these key points, hit me like a ton of bricks. I am making myself suffer. I am doing everything and then not feeling appreciated. I was hearing a message when I needed to hear the message.
WTH is wrong with me.
I feel like it is the right thing to do. I have some cock-eyed idea that a mom and wife should do everything. No clue where that came from. I am guessing it is some deep down seeded issue with my own mom. I went to Google Therapy, ok!
With this 2am revelation, I decided that my kids were going to go to “mom school”. Yes, mom school. I was going to school them on how to do things for themselves without me. Like eat a healthy breakfast and make his or her own grilled cheese for lunch or dinner. I am slowly doing this of course because if I go all “crazy” on them, they won’t know what to think and will end up in a state of emotional shock. Therefore, I am easing into this, mom not doing it all business. Plus, it’s hard for me to give up control…so easing in works best, for me.
To start, I showed them some ways they can eat a healthy breakfast without mom making it for them. We are all busy in the morning. I’m not a morning person either. So making them this glorious breakfast each day is just not going to happen. I’ll buy healthy foods, do the meal prep and yes, make breakfast many days of the week but on rushed mornings, they need to do it for themselves.
The solution, CLIF KID ZBAR’s, Stonyfield Farms Smoothies (my kids recently fought over the whole milk peach smoothies) and fresh fruit. We have a variety of it all and on the days where I’m running late or we’re rushed to eat in the car….we have standbys.
A few facts about our favorite Stonyfield Farms Peach Whole Milk Smoothie:
- USDA Organic
- Pastured Raised
- Non GMO
- Kosher Certified
- Gluten Free
- 160 calories per 1 bottle
- 6 g of protein per 1 bottle
- 16 g of sugar per 1 bottle
Mom Lesson #1: You can still eat healthy on-the-go
I am a work in progress but let me tell you, we have had some easy mornings with this concept. You might want to give it a whirl.
And don’t forget yourself mom, don’t cave into bad choices on-the-go. Even I throw a Stonfield Yogurt Smoothie and fresh fruit in my bag to go – it saves me on those nights where I work late!
Tell me, how can you school your children on doing things for themselves to take a load of your to-do list? What can they do themselves that you do for them?
Disclaimer: I’m a Stonyfield Farms Yo-Getter Blogger, I receive free products and I’m compensated for my time. My opinions are my own. I’m sharing these fruit snacks with you because I genuinely like the product and want to share them with you.
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